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Talking Styles and Relationships
Talking Styles and Relationships
Natanya Qualls
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Kara Brunson
April 29, 2013

Talking styles and Relationships The way people use words with their conversation does play a big part in having a relationship. You have to be able to understand a person and how they communicate to have an understanding relationship. To have a long term committed relation there has to be some understanding when communicating. Everyone communicates different and have their own vocabulary of words that they use. I feel communicating and talking styles play a big part in having good relationships from a test that I took and with my current committed relationship. I read an article called Shared Talking styles Herald New and Lasting Romance by USNEWS and World Impact. It is an article about how people have different talking styles, vocabulary, and communicating skills. How these things can make a relationship last long or short. Studies showed that people who are not compatible with communicating their relationship do not tend to last long. Then with people who do share the same communicating skills and words relationships last longer. Function words tap into verbal coordination between two people because these words are independent of conversation topics and require shared knowledge to be used effectively (USNEWS and World Impact, 2010). Which I do believe is true do to past relationships and current committed relationship I have with my partner. My partner is older than me, more outgoing, and says whatever comes to his mine. Me on the other hand am shyer and tend to hold things in that I feel. This shows that we do communicate different when I first met him his vocabulary was very bigger than mine and he had to teach me what certain words he use mean. Because before when I did not ask I did not have a clue to what he was saying. This cause or relationship to look like it was not going to go far because we did not



References: Sole, K.(2011). Making Connections: Understanding interpersonal Communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. retrieved from https://content.ashford.edu/books/AUCOM200 USNEWS and World Impact, (2010). Shared Talking Styles Herald and Lasting Romance. retrieved from http://search.proquest.com.proxy-library.ashford.edu/docview/821694533?accountid=32521

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