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Justice: Childhood Love Lessons
Alexis Morin
Period 4
October 23, 2014 Scares, bruises, and welts are just some of the marks abusive parents leave on their children. However, spanking and slapping on the hand when disobeying are ways to teach loving discipline. In Justice: Childhood Love Lessons bell hooks claims that "No one can rightfully claim to be loving when behaving abusively." Parents that abuse their children do not show or teach love. However, it is unfair to claim that a slap on the hand is considered abuse and the parents that commit this type of action, they do not love their child. There is a difference between physical punishment and child abuse. "Children from all classes tell me that they love their parents and are loved by them, even those who are being hurt and abused." (hooks 1). Love is the best feeling in the world because it makes a person feel confident and secure. hooks explains that when asked to define love children say it's giving hugs and kisses, being sweet and cuddly. (hooks 1). Children believe that their parents do for them. Jackie at the age of four says " Love is when your puppy licks your face even when you left him alone all day." Love is unconditional, parents can get upset with their children for their misbehaving, but they still love them. They may spank or punish their children for things that they have done wrong but they are showing and guiding them to the right things so they do not end up in the wrong places in life. Parents do what is best for their children they do not want them to struggle through life like they did. Abuse confuses children about love. hooks explains that "There is nothing that creates more confusion about love in minds and hearts of children than unkind and/or cruel punishment meted out by the grown-ups they have been taught they should love and respect." (hooks 1).
Parents that abuse their children confuse them about love because they believe that their parents love them but when they are being hit with belts, hangers,

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