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Mother By Grace Paley And Father By Yasushi Inouye
Parent/Child Conflict

Parent child relationship has never been easy. We can easily realize it in the texts that we have been reading. I preferred “mother” by Grace Paley and “Father” by Yasushi Inouye. The conflict in the relationship between parent and children is not very clear in those texts, but it is present. What really captured my attention was how in both texts this conflict was resolved by the death of the parents. I also liked how both authors painted the caring of a parent for his child. I think that both texts have a valuable lesson: that we should not take thing for granted.
The conflict in the relationship between parent and child in “mother” is the most common one we come upon in our world today. Kids often mistake their
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In both text the narrators realize how much their parent loved and cared about them. In “mother” the narrator wishes she could see her mother in every doorway, ready to scold her or teach her a new lesson. She now realizes that her mother her mother did everything she did because she loved her. It is only now that she understands the troubles, the worries, and sadness that she brought to her mother when she was younger. The fact that she remembers it and wishes to see her mother in the doorway “I wish I could see her in the doorway”, shows in my opinion how much she regrets acting the way she did, how much she wishes her mom could be there to see that now she is grown and is behaving well, that she heard her every time she tried to teach her a …show more content…
In the text when the author’s father took his hands into his, he never really understood what it meant. “For some time after Father’s death this incident stayed in my mind, and I speculated about it like one obsessed.” It did not occur automatically to him that his father took his hand into his because he wanted to show him that he loved him. It is only when he reached about the age his father retired that he understood fully that his father loved him and that he was acting the way he did because he loved him. As he is getting closer to death he realizes that his father was always so cynical because he knew he was dying from cancer, and wanted to protect them from death. “I also became aware that one of the roles father performed in his lifetime was to shield me from death.” I also think that just like in “mother” the narrator feels some sort of regret. He never understood his father and spent year trying to be his exact opposite: “From the time I was a student I consciously willed myself not to think like Father, not to behave like him”. Now that he understands why his father was acting the way he did he feels like he has been a little too harsh on

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