Byron in your Marriage and Divorce class we discussed values and qualities needed or desired in a good relationship. In Relationship Rescue Dr. Phil also covers some of these same things. He has a section named “Internalizing the Values needed to build & maintain a strong relationship” (McGraw, 2000). In class we discussed some of these very characteristics. Values and qualities such as the 10 Heart Qualities and the 10 Character Qualities. The 10 heart qualities are as follows Love, Empathy, Sympathy, Compassion, Caring, Tenderness, Sensitivity, Generosity, Forgiveness, and Oneness or Spirituality . The 10 character qualities are these Honesty, Responsibility, Respect, Self-Control, Commitment, Equality, Obedience, Patience, The courage to do what is right, and do no harm. Now I’m going to elaborate on some of these characteristics that are very important for the individuals in a healthy relationship to obtain. Starting with heart qualities love is very important no one wants to even start a relationship with someone they don’t think is capable of loving. Love is the ability of one person to be or at least strive to be self-less in regards to the one they claim to love. Love exudes patience, kindness and is just undeniably genuine. Another heart quality is empathy which is taking on a genuine care for your significant other and what they may be going through. Being able to place yourself in their shoes and truly provide support in a way you would want to be supported in…
Integrity is a word that we hear quite often. I myself use it a lot as I speak on my life and my marriage. Having integrity is the key element in every situation. In my way of thinking, when I just see the word integrity it comes off as a strong word within it self. My definition of integrity is commitment, wholeness, trust, strength, compassion, love, peace, togetherness, boldness, patience and most of all honesty. To have integrity, you have to have all the above. As we all should know, in any relationship integrity is the foundation and the main recipe. Even when it comes down to your children, integrity is a main source.…
The characteristics of an intimate relationship are behavioral interdependence, need fulfillment, emotional attachment, and emotional availability. Behavioral interdependence is the mutual impact we have on each other in our relationship. Our need for fulfillment is being able to share intimacy, social integration, nurturance, assistance, and affirmation. Emotional attachment and emotional availability is the feeling of love that there are different types of intimacy, and to be able to give to others emotional without the fear of being rejected. Each one of these are important in relationship development because they are the bases to beginning to a good relationship. When you are missing one or more of these characteristics your relationship can fail.…
Loyalty is the most important quality that needs in a love relationship. Being loyal is very similar to being respect. Loyal means being there by their side,…
There are many types of men in the world, and each type displays a variety of distinguishable characteristics. Women should become aware of these characteristics before considering a prospective mate. The smallest of personal details, from where and how they met (including the first date), the way he walks and talks, the clothes he wears, the career choice he's made, the vacation spots he frequents, or the automobile he drives can offer valuable, meaningful, insightful clues to whether or not a man will ever settle down with anyone. There are two main types of men in the world: the committer and the non-committer.…
In order to accomplish the goals of the research study and to address the gap in the authenticity literature in regards to romantic relationships, a longitudinal study will be utilized. This study will provide a better understanding of the relationship between authenticity and satisfaction in romantic relationships. More specifically, the researcher will examine participants at the formative stages of a romantic relationship in order to see if authenticity can predict the satisfaction over the course of the first six months of the relationship. Even though this design will not provide evidence of causality, the results can suggest a pathway for establishing a causal relationship in future research studies. The aim is to determine…
Ideally we would want a partner who possesses desirable traits. We want a partner who possesses both strength and weakness, who is pure and wicked, and additionally someone who will love us as deeply as we do them. However, it is very rare that someone will find that perfect partner who fulfills all of their desires. In my opinion, men and women usually project their guilt in ornate behaviors that lead to a breakdown in trust. For example, many people who are unfaithful often accuse their partner of cheating due to their own guilty conscience. Also, we can project our insecurities on our relationships; we do this unconsciously when we feel that we are not good enough or unable to fulfill our partner 's expectations in the relationship, and do this in many different ways.…
It holds this world together in communication and many more things in this world. We see sincerity in are friendship for “A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity” (Hall). In this society we want honesty in a relationship with friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands, and family. “There is no love without struggle,…
I feel as though I am unable to have a true relationship without honesty. If I am unable to trust my partner then I believe my relationship is bound for failure. Another characteristic I value in a relationship is respect. In a relationship my partner and I must have respect for one another and also our beliefs. I feel as though if there is no respect for my partner and their beliefs, then it is just a one way relationship because one of us may not truly care for that other person. Respect also ties into another characteristic I value in a relationship, which is shared power. This is important because I have hopes, dreams, and goals and I need someone who supports me as I plan to do the same for them. I also believe physical affection is a characteristic that I value in a relationship. In each relationship physical affection should be present because it just shows our love for one another through our actions. Although I believe physical affection is important, I believe that it is important for the each of us to ask before making a move because it can make the other person uncomfortable if they do not ask! Lastly, I believe that emotional intimacy is a key characteristic in a relationship that I value. This is important because at the end of the day, we should be able to have a deep intimate conversation, this shows our connection, value and loyalty to one another. This is also important because we have to be respectful of our partners boundaries and also show that we are dedicated to one…
My ideal mate would be someone who I feel comfortable and open with, somebody who I enjoy spending time as well as them enjoy spending time with me. Having an honest relationship that allows us to communicate and not be afraid to talk to each other and voice our own opinions. Simple things, like wanting to check in with each other throughout the day, telling each other small stories that we thought the other might enjoy, and being happy to just go home to each other at the end of the day. Someone who is…
Psychologists and researchers have proposed a number of different theories of love. Love is a basic human emotion, but understanding how and why it happens is not necessarily easy. In fact, for a long time, many people suggested that love was simply something that science couldn't understand.…
TIt is very important to have a person you can always rely on. I want my wife to be this person. She would be tightly connected with my life. I want to wake up by her tender kiss. The first thing I would see would be her smiling face. She would make a breakfast for us. We would call each other from time to time during all day. In the evening I want to have dinner with her, cooked by her, and fall asleep holding my arms around her.…
What do you look for in a romantic partner? If you are a hetero sexual male, is it the 36-24-36, pretty face, tiny waist, flirty eyed brunette? Hetero women, are you looking for that tall, strong, dark man with broad shoulders? Gay men… bear or boy toy? Lesbians… butch or with a little lipstick? Or does your preference defy convention? How would you react if someone changed their appearance, personality, finantial security, or status, purposefully, in order to deceive you? Matthew Dussault, Mahzad Hojjat, and Thomas R. Boone, from the University of Massatuches, published a study about deception and intimacy. In the article they said there was a “Dark Triad of Personalities”; consisting of Machiavellianism ("the employment of cunning and duplicity in statecraft or in general conduct"1), narcissism, and psychopathy. After filling out a questionnaire about deceptive tactics in attracting potential dating partners, level of intimacy, and previous dating history; they found that men who scored higher in Machiavellianism showed a greater chance of using various deceptive tactics while not caring so much about relationship intimacy. On the other hand, women’s degree of Machiavellianism and deceptive strategies was lessened by past intimate behaviors.…
Faithfulness. A man who is faithful is faithful not only to men but also to his virtues. Faithfulness in the narrow sense of mind is fidelity toward men but what’s with greater importance is our faithfulness toward fundamental truths and values. A faithful man is a moral man for even when his attention turns a completely different direction, he does not abandon but rather brings with him the lessons, impressions and experiences from his past. He who is faithful has a sense of continuity and unity for every step he takes is a new piece in building up his personality; he has sense of responsibility for he knows and respect lasting…
We were so exhausted from the drive that we decided to wait until, Sat. to start unloading the truck. After unloading and returning the truck, we decided take our time on arranging the…