Whats Love Got To Do With It
What’s Love Got to Do with it? In this article Anjula Razdan compares arranged marriage to her own ideal of what she thinks love and marriage means to her. She compares it to being under the spell of Western romantic love. She does this by comparing her own personal thoughts and experiences to those of various experts. Razdan also states that she was a product of an arranged marriage, even though she’s still not convinced to do it herself. Sure it worked for her parents, yet both of them were confident that their shared values, beliefs, and family background would form a strong bond that, over time would develop into love. I’m not sure that works for us today because one of the things that the grandfather was looking for seems to be missing in today’s society. I think that morally things have changed. Men are not doing the things that they use to, which forces women to play a different role. Men use to be the backbone of the family, going out and bringing in what the family needed. Coming home to the wife that was there waiting and willing to cook, clean, and raise the kids. Nowadays this night and shining armor riding in on horses and sweeping her off her feet that Razdan spoke of, is a fantasy. Sure he may show up but he expects her to a least have the broom. “People don’t really know how to choose a long time partner” offers Dr. Alvin Cooper, director of San Jose Marital Services and Sexuality Center. So things like arranged marriages and even online dating (sometimes leading to marriage) exist. Yet Razdan says that the very idea of an arranged marriage offended her ideas of both love and liberty. Yet her belief in the Western romantic idea of “happily ever after” where based on love instead of social or economic gain. So are we supposed to make sure that our hearts are filled or our pockets. Dr. Cooper states that the moment we pick a mate we are often blinded by passion and therefore virtually incapable of making a sound decision.