In most common cases of contracts in commercial surrogacy, it is stated that the commissioning couple are to pay all the expenses during the pregnancy, and the surrogate is to give the child to her/his putative parents upon birth. However, this arrangement creates a huge dilemma because, if all parties follow through the contract then, the surrogate mother is being treated as a means to an end, because the commissioning couple, are not acknowledging the surrogates contribution, in the creation of the child, and the connection she made with the child, during pregnancy. Hence, the surrogate is not given the respect due to her, because she is being objectified, she is being treated as nothing but a commodity, a necessary accessory to achieved a goal.
Furthermore, if the commissioning couple, do acknowledges the surrogates connection with the child, they are harming the intimate relationships between, husband and wife, and parents and child. The presence of the surrogate as a third party in the relationship is a destructive element that gradually destroys the intimacy which exists in an exclusive, committed relationship. Recognising the surrogate as a person, rather than a means to end, means