Their choice to marry one another was a collective choice and also a third party which was the pastor at our church. Although it was a collective choice my mother still had a little doubt before they got married because my father had low self-esteem, signs of not being responsible and signs of being a cheater, which in the long run proved to be truthful. In addition to all of that, my mother was told by our pastor to move the wedding date up and he insured my mom that marrying my dad would be a perfect match for my mom so our pastor thought. As the years rode by my father’s hidden agendas came to the forefront. However with all that being said love did play a role in the marriage because my father had a good job, he fit my mother standard of physical appearance, and she felt that he deeply cared for her. As stated in the reading by Pasupathi that “it may seem obvious that different cultures will consider different criteria in mate selection” for example it says in India the criteria for marriage partners are multidimensional and includes: religion/horoscope matching, character, education, dowry, appearance, employment, caste/subcaste, geographic distance between families, financial status and lastly family status, tradition and reputation. When I asked my mother what criteria did her and my father base there alliance on she said it was her becoming pregnant, sex, how they made each other feel and the looks. They only had one criterion in common with India criteria, which was appearance. I honestly thought that my mother would have told me more characteristics that they based their alliance on but my mother said
Their choice to marry one another was a collective choice and also a third party which was the pastor at our church. Although it was a collective choice my mother still had a little doubt before they got married because my father had low self-esteem, signs of not being responsible and signs of being a cheater, which in the long run proved to be truthful. In addition to all of that, my mother was told by our pastor to move the wedding date up and he insured my mom that marrying my dad would be a perfect match for my mom so our pastor thought. As the years rode by my father’s hidden agendas came to the forefront. However with all that being said love did play a role in the marriage because my father had a good job, he fit my mother standard of physical appearance, and she felt that he deeply cared for her. As stated in the reading by Pasupathi that “it may seem obvious that different cultures will consider different criteria in mate selection” for example it says in India the criteria for marriage partners are multidimensional and includes: religion/horoscope matching, character, education, dowry, appearance, employment, caste/subcaste, geographic distance between families, financial status and lastly family status, tradition and reputation. When I asked my mother what criteria did her and my father base there alliance on she said it was her becoming pregnant, sex, how they made each other feel and the looks. They only had one criterion in common with India criteria, which was appearance. I honestly thought that my mother would have told me more characteristics that they based their alliance on but my mother said