Stuff Static - Declutter Your Space
Frustration. Confusion. Despair. Betrayal. Overwhelm. Anger.
Any of these feelings resonate with you? It is my professional opinion and suggestion to you that before you can declutter your logistical space after divorce, you must first declutter your emotional space. This article assumes you have already went through the phase of emotional decluttering, and are ready to tackle your logistical decluttering project.
There’s a lot of stuff in a marriage. Photos, videos, furniture, papers, cookware, rings, wedding dress, a home…these are some of the very special things you have attained on the day of your wedding and through your relationship. But, what happens after the divorce? How can you decide what to keep and what to eradicate? As a legal professional, divorce mediator, and a divorced single mom at a very young age, I have first-hand personal experience as well as experience with my clients in the “decluttering” after divorce. I have some simple beginning suggestions to help you get your logistical space decluttered and life back on track.
I don’t know about you, but when I was going through my initial break-up and divorce 20 years ago, I believed that I deserved it all, meaning the entire house, and everything in it; that he could leave and not let the door hit him where the good Lord split him! Let me tell you, it doesn’t work that way. Think “half”. In my 18 years in the legal profession, most of the time you get half of the “stuff” and there are some times when one of you ends up with the house full of “stuff” while the other gets to carry on and start fresh.
Here is what I have learned.
After a long courtship and dating, coupled with a 6 year marriage, we acquired a lot of “stuff.” Memories, pictures, house, furniture….and possessions. Yes, there was a ton of “stuff!” So, even though when you get a divorce you usually end up with at least half, we can agree that it’s a lot of “stuff” that has been collected over your life
Any of these feelings resonate with you? It is my professional opinion and suggestion to you that before you can declutter your logistical space after divorce, you must first declutter your emotional space. This article assumes you have already went through the phase of emotional decluttering, and are ready to tackle your logistical decluttering project.
There’s a lot of stuff in a marriage. Photos, videos, furniture, papers, cookware, rings, wedding dress, a home…these are some of the very special things you have attained on the day of your wedding and through your relationship. But, what happens after the divorce? How can you decide what to keep and what to eradicate? As a legal professional, divorce mediator, and a divorced single mom at a very young age, I have first-hand personal experience as well as experience with my clients in the “decluttering” after divorce. I have some simple beginning suggestions to help you get your logistical space decluttered and life back on track.
I don’t know about you, but when I was going through my initial break-up and divorce 20 years ago, I believed that I deserved it all, meaning the entire house, and everything in it; that he could leave and not let the door hit him where the good Lord split him! Let me tell you, it doesn’t work that way. Think “half”. In my 18 years in the legal profession, most of the time you get half of the “stuff” and there are some times when one of you ends up with the house full of “stuff” while the other gets to carry on and start fresh.
Here is what I have learned.
After a long courtship and dating, coupled with a 6 year marriage, we acquired a lot of “stuff.” Memories, pictures, house, furniture….and possessions. Yes, there was a ton of “stuff!” So, even though when you get a divorce you usually end up with at least half, we can agree that it’s a lot of “stuff” that has been collected over your life