Struggle
When Your Partner is struggling with an Addiction
When Your Partner is Struggling with an Addiction you are not alone … substance abuse affects millions of families. It is a difficult road to travel and can have severe consequences. When you think about it, you may find that a lot of your energy has been focused on your addicted partner – trying to rescue, cover up for, or stop him/her from destroying careers or even lives. Should you continue in this relationship, the strength, persistence, and understanding you provide will be crucial to your partner’s recovery. At the same time, it is very important to concentrate on your own needs in order to let your partner handle the consequences of his/her actions. The probability of both yours and your partner’s recovery increases when you eliminate any of your enabling and care-taking behaviors. The following suggestions may be of help to you as your partner is struggling with addiction. Educate yourself. A basic understanding of the problem is fundamental to being able to resolve any issue. It is important that you begin to learn more about the addiction process and how it affects you. Education will empower you with new ideas and help you process the guilt, frustration, and anger that go along with being in a relationship with someone struggling with an addiction. Find a support group. Groups can help support you through the difficulties and challenges of living with a substance user. You may find support through a church group, a counselor experienced in addictions, or simply some good friends. You may not feel connected to the first support group you attend, but don’t give up! Keep looking until you find the right one for you. Avoid arguments. It is particularly senseless to argue with someone when he/she has been using a substance. In fact, any interaction should be avoided until your partner is sober. Be a cheerleader. When the addicted partner is not using, do
When Your Partner is Struggling with an Addiction you are not alone … substance abuse affects millions of families. It is a difficult road to travel and can have severe consequences. When you think about it, you may find that a lot of your energy has been focused on your addicted partner – trying to rescue, cover up for, or stop him/her from destroying careers or even lives. Should you continue in this relationship, the strength, persistence, and understanding you provide will be crucial to your partner’s recovery. At the same time, it is very important to concentrate on your own needs in order to let your partner handle the consequences of his/her actions. The probability of both yours and your partner’s recovery increases when you eliminate any of your enabling and care-taking behaviors. The following suggestions may be of help to you as your partner is struggling with addiction. Educate yourself. A basic understanding of the problem is fundamental to being able to resolve any issue. It is important that you begin to learn more about the addiction process and how it affects you. Education will empower you with new ideas and help you process the guilt, frustration, and anger that go along with being in a relationship with someone struggling with an addiction. Find a support group. Groups can help support you through the difficulties and challenges of living with a substance user. You may find support through a church group, a counselor experienced in addictions, or simply some good friends. You may not feel connected to the first support group you attend, but don’t give up! Keep looking until you find the right one for you. Avoid arguments. It is particularly senseless to argue with someone when he/she has been using a substance. In fact, any interaction should be avoided until your partner is sober. Be a cheerleader. When the addicted partner is not using, do