Ann dwells on the fact that her husband is not an intellectual companion whom is engaging and captivating towards her. She has no more motivation to initiate conversation with her husband, making her dwell the time she spends with him. She has all these past memories in her head that shine a false negative light on her husband. Her past memories are blinding her of the virtuous and giving person that her husband really is. She is relying falsely on the past to interpret how she wants to live in the future. She is scrutinizing John for the little things he does that are wrong but does not focus on the bigger picture, as he makes sure “ she should have the clothes... should slave away fifteen hours a day to give them to her”. John makes many sacrifices for Ann and always puts her first. However, Ann does not see this as she is fixated on a delusional reality of what she wants her ideal husband to be. At this moment in the story her ideal husband is not John, by the time the false expectations that she has formed from the past have faded away it is too late. Jay Gatsby is quite similar to Ann on that he relies heavily on the past to affect his future …show more content…
In “The Painted Door”, Ann’s nearest neighbour Steven finally comes over. Ann has delusioned herself to make Steven the epitome of what she is looking for in a man. Ann felt that Steven was irresistible and his physical features were more attracting than John. She gushes over Steven, “ There was something strange, almost terrifying , about Steven and his quiet unrelenting smile; but strangest of all was the familiarity: the Steven she had never seen or encountered, and yet had always known, always expected, always waited for.”.(**) As she speaks about Steven’s smile being something she has “always waited for” (**), Ann is deluding herself into thinking physical attraction is the most important aspect of a relationship. Ann is misunderstanding that the man she desires at this moment does not have all the amazing qualities that she imagines he does. She realizes this mistake after she cheats on her husband. She thinks to herself, “ she knew- now- John was the man”.( ***) Ann finally realizes that she wants to be with John but her few hours of misunderstanding where she sleeps with Steven had caused a destructive end to her relationship with John, the man she really loves.Jay Gatsby and Ann similarly misunderstand the people they long to be with. For Gatsby, this person is Daisy. Gatsby dreams about Daisy as being this perfect creature. His expectations are impossible to live up too.