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Ross Forgiveness
Shonie Taylor
April 27, 2011
Professor Ross
Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the Sweetest Revenge

Forgiveness is releasing the energy that was once used by concealing resentments, and tending unresolved issues by putting it to a more beneficial use. No one can earn forgiveness; it is something that is given freely, it is a choice. I believe the word “freedom” is the perfect synonym for forgiveness. There is a lack of restrictions, there is independence, and there is liberty in forgiveness. I titled this paper Forgiveness is the Sweetest Revenge because revenge is the settling of scores, it is a big comeback; one should seek the revenge over negative emotions within thy self by retaliating, not accepting those negative emotions to be a burden, and granting freedom from mental and emotional bondage.
I have learned that in almost every controversial situation there is always more than one party to blame. When someone is blaming everyone else but themselves they are crippling themselves for change and maturity. I believe this applies to many situations with the exception of physical abuse. According to our class discussion, there are two emotions that work against us and those are intensity and duration; these are the two that affect our health the most. Many people who do not forgive or do not know how to forgive have rage and anger problems on many different levels. These problems proceed to escalate into health problems. Long term repression is related to cancers. When people are stressed, bitter, angry or depressed, toxic and unhealthy substances are created in our bodies; this is a substantial reason as to why it is so important to know how to genuinely forgive. Knowing what forgiveness “is not” is just as important as knowing what forgiveness is.
What forgiveness “is not” provides clear concrete boundaries of how to master the gift of forgiving. Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is remembering, but still forgiving. Forgiveness is not pardoning; pardoning



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