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Roles of Housewives
Micheal Montalvo
Ms. SNOW
WRC 1003.010
25 September 2013
Roles and Dynamics of Housewives: An Exploration by Hekker and Edelman Terry Hekker’s, “The Satisfactions of Housewifery and Motherhood” and Hope Edelman’s “The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed To Be. How It Was,” are two antithetically toned readings discussing perspectives of what it is like to be a house wife. Hekker examines as more of a traditional housewife and Edelman as a modern housewife because Hekker actually enjoys being a housewife and Edelman wants to get back into the workforce. Both authors investigate the roles of a housewife financially and robustly, with many egoistic opinions. Hekker and Edelman have contradicting feelings about being housewives. While Hekker explains how she is embarrased, Edelman is feeling frustrated and useless as a housewife. According to Hekker, “Ms. Putdown asked me who I was. I told her I was Jack Hekker’s wife...She took my hand and asked if that was all I though of myself-just someone’s wife?” (392). In this quote, Hekker has a difficult time revealing to others that she doesn’t really enjoy the career of a housewife but has no better skills than to be a modeled-housewife. According to Edelman, “It began to make me spitting mad, the way daily duties of parenting and homeownership started to rest entirely on me...The frustration I felt after researching and visiting six preschools during my so-called work hours” (409). Edelman is growing quite infuriated and frustrated with not being able to work. She also explains to her husband how she would prefer to have “shared responsibilities” and “equal division of labor” rather than just being a housewife. The main differences between Terry Hekker’s, “The Satisfactions of Housewifery and Motherhood” and Hope Edelman’s “The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed To Be. How It Was,” are the years they were published and their perspectives of traditionalist and modernists housewives. Hekker shows

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