reflective journal counselling

In this reflective journal I’m willing to write my observation summarized from the lecture, class room, and the text book in last three weeks to identify briefly what is counselling, counselling skill and practices that we did in tutorial. What I understood about counselling is a service to help people with certain problem by making mutual relationship, addressing their issues in supportive environment so that a better understanding can be achieved. While it is necessary for counsellors observe the client and find out what is the main problem and pain they having, what is the key issue making them unhappy or stressed. It is not a theory that I can express only in few sentences. It includes wide range of study, practice and experience how to become a successful counsellor.
People in their life happen to be a counsellor either professional or non-professional way, when it comes to a relationship, for example, between mother and child, student and teacher, nurse and patient. Especially in my life experience woman tend to release their stress by talking with their friends with or without asking advice.
I would like to outline how I used one of counselling skill open question at role play by listening to my partner efficiently. She started with one sentence that “I had horrible day at work” which tingled my curiosity to know more. After a several question, found out that she was not happy with her boss because he said that she is not good enough with reading the face of an upset client. She is a therapy masseur. During our conversation I felt little nervous because I was unsure if it is too many questions for her, whether the question is too personal or inappropriate, what is the limit of it, is my posture proper, do I making myself clear? But compare to first tutorial class which we did active listening practice, this time I felt much comfortable having conversation with her. It was not our first role play with her, so that made me bit relaxed. When we skipped our role I noticed myself talked too much without leaving her some questions to ask. I felt not good about it, on the other hand it might be helpful for the counsellor to determine the situations.
Believe it or not, first, role play as a counsellor and patient sounded really easy, but I realized that is a challenging and lot more to learn and practice.