Part 1 You Are So Selfish Analysis
Part 1
You are so selfish.
-1 pt. I feel upset when you act egocentric [This accuses the other person of egocentricity, which is a broad generalization. What specific action was the concern? ]because I feel like what I say doesn’t matter. Try this: I feel upset when you don’t remember what time we’re leaving because I feel what I say doesn’t matter.
You don 't understand a word I 'm saying.
I feel angry when you do not appear to be listening effectively when I am talking because I want to have an effective conversation. [Add “appear” because it’s hard to know whether the person is actually listening.]
You are too nosy; mind your own business.
I feel uncomfortable when you become intrusive, because I want to keep my business private.
You are so selfish.
-1 pt. I feel upset when you act egocentric [This accuses the other person of egocentricity, which is a broad generalization. What specific action was the concern? ]because I feel like what I say doesn’t matter. Try this: I feel upset when you don’t remember what time we’re leaving because I feel what I say doesn’t matter.
You don 't understand a word I 'm saying.
I feel angry when you do not appear to be listening effectively when I am talking because I want to have an effective conversation. [Add “appear” because it’s hard to know whether the person is actually listening.]
You are too nosy; mind your own business.
I feel uncomfortable when you become intrusive, because I want to keep my business private.