The question ask to my wife and I by our 22 year old son was "what do you'll think about my girl friend?" Not having enough information to answer his question I asked, "Do you mean how pretty she is?" He answered, No, I mean what do you'll think about me living with my girlfriend again? My wife immedately attempted to answer his question which meant she selected what she wanted to hear and focused on the verbal message given by our son at that time. Her answer, "Son we have nothing against your girlfriend in general or with you living with her if that is what you want. But, remember you've tried living with her, and you both have had an assortment of conflicts with one another. So, you need to decide if you want to live this way." Her question to him was, do you love her? His aggesivley answered, love is not the point, you don't have to love a person to live with them. To analyze the conversation so far meant to me our son was verbally saying one thing but really meaning another. By his aggresive tone of voice when he answered my wife's question was his nonverbal way of saying that there is a problem with love or caring
The question ask to my wife and I by our 22 year old son was "what do you'll think about my girl friend?" Not having enough information to answer his question I asked, "Do you mean how pretty she is?" He answered, No, I mean what do you'll think about me living with my girlfriend again? My wife immedately attempted to answer his question which meant she selected what she wanted to hear and focused on the verbal message given by our son at that time. Her answer, "Son we have nothing against your girlfriend in general or with you living with her if that is what you want. But, remember you've tried living with her, and you both have had an assortment of conflicts with one another. So, you need to decide if you want to live this way." Her question to him was, do you love her? His aggesivley answered, love is not the point, you don't have to love a person to live with them. To analyze the conversation so far meant to me our son was verbally saying one thing but really meaning another. By his aggresive tone of voice when he answered my wife's question was his nonverbal way of saying that there is a problem with love or caring