Module 1 Assignment Analysis
The couple I asked to help me with this assignment was my brother and his wife and they were more than happy to help. They have been together 16 years, but only been married since February of this year. When we discussed the first question, “You can’t make anyone love you and nobody can make you happy.” My brother said that this is not true, that his wife makes him very happy, but it was his choice to allow himself to love her, and her choice to love him. My sister-in-law said that a person can only make you happy, because you allow them too. If a person is happy about something or someone it is because it is the choice they made. The second statement, “Try all you want; you'll never change your partner. However, if you change yourself, your
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The next statement “Most likely, the qualities that now drive you crazy are the same ones that first attracted you to your partner.” My sister-in-law said that the things that drove her crazy in the beginning of their relationship, still drive her crazy. The next statement, “It is impossible to go through a relationship without experiencing periods of pain and loneliness.” Both my brother and sister-in-law agreed that there are periods in the relationship that is painful, and can be lonely. There was a time that they discussed, where they separated for a while and my brother had a child with another women. During this time it was very painful for both of them and also a hard and lonely time, before they started working through the issue of their separation. My sister-in-law has been raising the child as her own, and loves this child as much as hers own children. The statement about “The greatest gift you can give your children is a loving marriage.” The statement of “A marriage succeeds when each of us realizes that our partner’s needs are at least as important as our own.” My brother was the first to say that in the beginning of their relationship, he was very selfish when it came to his needs, and even though he thought about his wife’s needs, he continued to put his needs first.
The next statement “Most likely, the qualities that now drive you crazy are the same ones that first attracted you to your partner.” My sister-in-law said that the things that drove her crazy in the beginning of their relationship, still drive her crazy. The next statement, “It is impossible to go through a relationship without experiencing periods of pain and loneliness.” Both my brother and sister-in-law agreed that there are periods in the relationship that is painful, and can be lonely. There was a time that they discussed, where they separated for a while and my brother had a child with another women. During this time it was very painful for both of them and also a hard and lonely time, before they started working through the issue of their separation. My sister-in-law has been raising the child as her own, and loves this child as much as hers own children. The statement about “The greatest gift you can give your children is a loving marriage.” The statement of “A marriage succeeds when each of us realizes that our partner’s needs are at least as important as our own.” My brother was the first to say that in the beginning of their relationship, he was very selfish when it came to his needs, and even though he thought about his wife’s needs, he continued to put his needs first.