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Hello, my name is Melodie, I admit it, I’ve read a self-help dating advice book! When I was in my young to mid 20’s living the “single free life” of being a flight attendant and residing in downtown Chicago, I imagined my life as it was actually like Carrie’s from Sex and the City. I was having an on and off again relationship for five years with a pilot and continually crying to my best friend. She suggested one day I borrow her book to “help myself” with my relationship. Looking back, I don’t know if she was trying to be helpful or just tired of me being “that friend” who always had the same relationship drama over and over again. The book she gave me was called; He’s Just Not That into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. At the time, I thought this book helped and improved my understanding of men. Did it encourage me to move on from my relationship? Not so much. I finally moved on from my relationship when I decided to relocate to the other side of the world and live in Dubai for two years. Even then, it was still complicated for a while because he was a pilot and came to visit a few times. In reality, it took an ocean, time apart, and me learning myself for me to move …show more content…
If we felt we were getting mix signals, it was us (women) overthinking it and simply meant “he’s just not that into you.” The book has a total of 165 pages and 16 chapters. 11 of those chapters are circumstances as to why “he just not that into you,” and the remaining five chapters are closing remarks from the authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, questions and answers, and more. The main 11 chapters are the alleged debaucheries that we as women should avoid/ obey. They are as followed, "He's Just Not That into You
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