Essay On Abusive Relationships
Healthy relationships are based on love, equality, and respect while abusive ones are based on neglect, power and control. People abuse their partners either because they have experienced abuse themselves or because they grew up seeing someone being abused and perceived it a normal behavior. Usually men who are unable to make an emotional connection with the woman they choose to be intimate with are unable to allow themselves to love for fear of abandonment or betrayal. This defense mechanism could have been created in a man who has been abandoned by his mother, or due to being badly treated by a woman who he once truly admired and loved. Often abusive men appear to be the most loving people on earth but they struggle with getting rid of those
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The truth is there are many reasons why people don’t leave an abusive relationship right away; one reason being is fear for their lives. For anyone who has suffered verbal abuse ‘behind closed doors’ the reality is painful. When someone abuses you in secret the abuser gives a false impression to others that the relationship is healthy, that you are happy, and okay. It also creates the illusion that you are the problem and not abuser because abusers have the ability to manipulate others into taking their side. The most obvious thing to do to prevent the abuser’s tactics from being effective is to leave permanently or to put as much distance as you possibly can between you and your abuser. This may be the only effective choice to put in place, whether it’s physical or verbal abuse. Many women have tried to escape abusive relationships, but are afraid of the possible consequences. This may be easy for women who have a strong family support system but many women have failed to find relief in these situations simply because they don’t have family support or adequate resources. My heart is often troubled after reading countless domestic violence cases where women have been severely beaten or even murdered by their partners. It really bothers me when these incidents take place right in front of the children. If you don’t have the courage to leave for yourself, please leave for the sake of your children. No child should ever have to watch their mother being abused or murdered in front of
The truth is there are many reasons why people don’t leave an abusive relationship right away; one reason being is fear for their lives. For anyone who has suffered verbal abuse ‘behind closed doors’ the reality is painful. When someone abuses you in secret the abuser gives a false impression to others that the relationship is healthy, that you are happy, and okay. It also creates the illusion that you are the problem and not abuser because abusers have the ability to manipulate others into taking their side. The most obvious thing to do to prevent the abuser’s tactics from being effective is to leave permanently or to put as much distance as you possibly can between you and your abuser. This may be the only effective choice to put in place, whether it’s physical or verbal abuse. Many women have tried to escape abusive relationships, but are afraid of the possible consequences. This may be easy for women who have a strong family support system but many women have failed to find relief in these situations simply because they don’t have family support or adequate resources. My heart is often troubled after reading countless domestic violence cases where women have been severely beaten or even murdered by their partners. It really bothers me when these incidents take place right in front of the children. If you don’t have the courage to leave for yourself, please leave for the sake of your children. No child should ever have to watch their mother being abused or murdered in front of