Deception In Romantic Relationships

It is not exaggerated to say that in any human societies, past or present, deception lies at the foundation of most romantic relationships. For us to have the genes that we carry in our DNA today, men and women of many generations across geographic boundaries have had to be simultaneously deceiving and deceived. Despite how badly we want to define “love” as something pure and genuine, lie, scheme, and disguise are oftentimes what arouse our attraction in one another in the first place and effectively influence our decision to invest in a commitment.
Though we might not even recognize it, we employ many forms of deception in our everyday life to make ourselves appear desirable to potential mates. These strategies range from wearing makeup and …show more content…
This also works in cases where the man has known how the woman naturally looks prior to her transformation. Where I went to middle school in Vietnam, there was a classmate who had successfully made use of this strategy. My classmate was an average girl: she always tied her curly hair in a ponytail; she wore round glasses and pants that were tapered and high-waisted, not the low rise skinny jeans that the cool girls were really into. Then, she would come back to class after summer vacation looking like a different person. Her hair was straightened and let down, her new uniform fitted tighter to her body, the heels of her shoes got higher, her eyebrows were shaped, and she no longer had glasses on. Her “metamorphosis” was nothing dramatic, but those few changes complemented her beauty so well that within the next few days, she somehow became a celebrity figure among the students and love letters started flooding in. During recesses, guys would intentionally pass by our classroom just to get a glimpse of her. Consequently, her new hairstyle became popular among the female students, and girls from other classes would desperately try to befriend her. Deception is no doubt an effective strategy for attracting mates, and, needless to say, some people are better at …show more content…
Iteroparous species reproduce multiple times during their life span while their semelparous counterparts have only one reproductive episode. Throughout its evolution, each species has adapted a method of reproduction that is the most beneficial to its linage’s survival. A new reproductive pattern might be introduced if there is any change in a species’ environment that requires modification to take place. If adult mortality among individuals of a species is low, that species will most likely be iteroparous. In organisms where most adult death occurs between the first and second reproductive episodes, semelparity makes more sense because it allows each individual to invest its entire resources in a single reproduction. That way, resources will not be wasted on later episodes, which will probably never occur. According to this definition, humans are considered iteroparous since we are capable of having multiple breeding. Some of us, however, are voluntarily semelparous. In my opinion, human iteroparity and semelparity are not consistent with what happens in the natural world. In human, we tend to see iteroparity where we would expect semelparity to exist, and vice versa. For example, couples in poor communities where adult survival rate is low are observed to have more