Conflict Resolution and Peacemaking
Conflict Resolution and Peacemaking
Elisa Castaneda
PSY 400
June 18, 2014
Matthew Hicks
Conflict Resolution and Peacemaking
Conflict is all around; in the homes, churches, communities and work environment. How one handles each conflict will determine whether one strengthens his/her relationship or break it up. Each situation can be dealt with in a way that can bring healing to a relationship instead of hurt and further pain. Often conflict is looked upon as a negative experience that many refuse to take part in because of poor conflict management skills but if both parties are willing to sit down and talk, it can have a positive outcome. When conflict is dealt with correctly and successfully from the start, then there will be a greater understanding from each individual involved and an increased likelihood of unity and an improved relationship.
“It strikes me as a bit more than ironic that theological education requires certification in Pastoral counseling but absolutely no training in conflict management.” Dr. David Roozen.
Research conducted by the Barna Group has revealed two stunning facts: (1) not only is the majority of the nation 's non-churched population comprised of people who consider themselves Christians, but that (2) about four out of ten of these stopped attending due to a "painful" or otherwise "negative" ordeal. Moreover, the problem is getting worse. Based on current "drop-out" rates, Barna projected that in 15 years church attendance nationally will be half of what it is today (Newberger, 2014).
Skills and practical learning tools for resolving the conflict are essential but according to Ken Sande the author of “ The Peacemaker: A biblical guide to Resolving Conflict “ and also the president of Peacemakers Ministries, as important as tools are the main focus has to be on “motive”. Why am I seeking resolution? Is it to prove I am right or is it to really get to the heart of the matter and solve the issue? Many churches today are
Elisa Castaneda
PSY 400
June 18, 2014
Matthew Hicks
Conflict Resolution and Peacemaking
Conflict is all around; in the homes, churches, communities and work environment. How one handles each conflict will determine whether one strengthens his/her relationship or break it up. Each situation can be dealt with in a way that can bring healing to a relationship instead of hurt and further pain. Often conflict is looked upon as a negative experience that many refuse to take part in because of poor conflict management skills but if both parties are willing to sit down and talk, it can have a positive outcome. When conflict is dealt with correctly and successfully from the start, then there will be a greater understanding from each individual involved and an increased likelihood of unity and an improved relationship.
“It strikes me as a bit more than ironic that theological education requires certification in Pastoral counseling but absolutely no training in conflict management.” Dr. David Roozen.
Research conducted by the Barna Group has revealed two stunning facts: (1) not only is the majority of the nation 's non-churched population comprised of people who consider themselves Christians, but that (2) about four out of ten of these stopped attending due to a "painful" or otherwise "negative" ordeal. Moreover, the problem is getting worse. Based on current "drop-out" rates, Barna projected that in 15 years church attendance nationally will be half of what it is today (Newberger, 2014).
Skills and practical learning tools for resolving the conflict are essential but according to Ken Sande the author of “ The Peacemaker: A biblical guide to Resolving Conflict “ and also the president of Peacemakers Ministries, as important as tools are the main focus has to be on “motive”. Why am I seeking resolution? Is it to prove I am right or is it to really get to the heart of the matter and solve the issue? Many churches today are
References: Newberger, K. C. (2014). Theological FOundation for Resolving Church Conflict. Retrieved from http://www.resolvechurchconflict.com/theological_foundations_for_church_conflict_resolution_essay.htm Sander, K. (2003). The Peace Maker: A Biblical Guide to Revolution Conflict. Retrieved from http://www.barna.org/barnaupdate/newstatistics-on-church Townsend, J. (2005). How to have that difficult conversation you’ve been avoiding. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.