She would make many demands coercively, using force and punishment. To apply control, she would yell, command, criticize, and threatens, trying to demand unquestioning obedience. For example, if either child had made a bad grade, then she would yell to get her point across, then she would let you know the consequences for your failing and making low grades, which was followed by a spanking. I think that the communication could have been better, such that the message would have been understood and received better. My belief is that the cultural factors that might have influenced my mom’s parenting approach were spankings from her childhood and her parent’s childhood and so on. My mother and my father were raised getting spankings if they did not do something right or if they were disobedient as punishment, rather than taking time out to put a child in time out or taking a special item away for a certain amount of time such that we could reach an understanding that if you fail you lose your TV watching privileges or you will not hang out with your friends for a week which in the long run would have sent the message less forceful but rather encourage us not to
She would make many demands coercively, using force and punishment. To apply control, she would yell, command, criticize, and threatens, trying to demand unquestioning obedience. For example, if either child had made a bad grade, then she would yell to get her point across, then she would let you know the consequences for your failing and making low grades, which was followed by a spanking. I think that the communication could have been better, such that the message would have been understood and received better. My belief is that the cultural factors that might have influenced my mom’s parenting approach were spankings from her childhood and her parent’s childhood and so on. My mother and my father were raised getting spankings if they did not do something right or if they were disobedient as punishment, rather than taking time out to put a child in time out or taking a special item away for a certain amount of time such that we could reach an understanding that if you fail you lose your TV watching privileges or you will not hang out with your friends for a week which in the long run would have sent the message less forceful but rather encourage us not to