Never married mothers don’t necessarily see non-marital parenthood as a “problem”. This is especially the case with women living in conditions of poverty or in inner cities. They are so accustomed to having children outside of marriage because of their culture and the neighborhood in which they live. Most of the mothers are children of non married parents as well and are also surrounded by their peers who are in the same position as them. Children are viewed as a necessity of life, whereas marriage a luxury. These women usually want to raise their children in better conditions than they were raised and also want their children to “do more” with their life than they have.…
Every couple enters a relationship with the romantic dream of getting married, starting a family, and living happily ever after. Truth is it may sound all good and well however not all relationships and marriages go the distance. According to the American Psychological Association, 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce (2014). After the divorce process comes the real complicated part, the child custody process. When a family separates and begins living in different households agreements have to be made regarding the welfare of the children.…
In the article entitled "Unmarried with Children" the authors present the findings of a study which they spent years interviewing 162 low-income mothers in eight poor neighborhoods in Philadelphia and its suburb, Camden, New Jersey. (Edin and Kefalas, 34). "We spent five years chatting over kitchen tables and on front steps, giving mothers like Jen the opportunity to speak to the question so many affluent Americans ask about them: Why do they have children while still young and unmarried when they will face such an uphill struggle to support them" (Edin at al, 33). Their goal was to paint a portrait of these women's lives from the early days of their intimate relationships, through pregnancy, birth and beyond to tell us why they frequently put motherhood before marriage. The primary point they make is that these women do not devalue marriage, but rather value it highly and do not enter into it lightly.…
When I was eight, my friends and I spent our days imagining lands in which dragons and fairies ruled. When I was nine, my mother and father taught me how to protect myself from the foes that lurked in every dark corner. When I was ten, I developed my first childhood crush. However, in some third world countries, young girls are given away, sometimes even sold to much older men. Child brides are forced to mature and develop in the span of just a few short years and after their wedding they are expected to take on roles that were meant for young women. Some countries have passed laws that are supposed to protect girls from being married off to older men. However, these laws also allow the government to make exceptions and ask the parents to sign a waiver stating there are aware…
Having a child out of wedlock is greatly looked down upon in today’s society. People think that these children were mistakes of their parents and won’t be cared for the same as children in a “real” family are. These newborns are often misinterpreted as products of a promiscuous teenager who isn’t mature or financially sound enough to take care of a child. However, in 2005, 4 out of 10 babies born in the U.S. were born to an unmarried mother, and the birthrate among teenagers was the lowest on record.…
Growing up is far from easy, for anyone, for many different reasons. As a teenager, you begin to find your own path in this world, by figuring out who you really want to be as an adult. In many parts of the United States where teenage girls are having, keeping and raising babies is considered to be without question, the only acceptable choice; they are not given the facts about the alternative: placing one’s newborn up for adoption. There is no situation in which an unmarried teenage girl fares best by keeping her child, and in no situation in which doing so is in the child’s best interest. Also, when neither marriage or the common sense of maturity are agreed upon, parenting takes on an entirely different role for the father. Without full commitment and responsibility to either the child or the girl, he may find himself being an absent father where the word father is given to mean child support, which he can not afford and rights which he has not yet earned.…
Do you think women are choosing to have children unmarried? In some instances that is true, but most of the time it is a mistake. Today one in three children are born to an unmarried mother. Researchers like Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas took a bold step and wrote an article that gives the different points of view about being unmarried with children. In Unmarried with Children, Kathryn Edin and Marie Kefalas, use personal credentials, statistics, external sources, and cause and effect to appeal to the readers’ credibility, reasoning, and logistics to convince them that many single mothers might have been better off if they had finished high school, found a stable job, and married their child’s father first.…
In the United States today more than one-half of all marriages end in divorce. The purpose of this paper is to examine the reason why women have typically received custody of the children far more often than the fathers. In order to better understand child custody one must first examine how fathers have often times been left out of the picture, and conversely why mothers have had such hard times raising children on their own. This paper will first examine the perspective of a father who has lost custody of his children.…
It is unfortunate during war time in various areas, young girls can become victims of rape and often young girls are used as “Soldiers wives” in various foreign countries (Garbarino, Kostelny & Dubrow 1998), where they are made to live in slavery and care for the soldiers every need, which includes intimate needs. This is why some of these young girls become pregnant and are then often time abandoned while the solider finds a new young female victim. Research has shown that once these young girls have babies, they seen as outcast and cannot return back to their regular family unit, due to most family members have been killed due to war zones. Young female and male children both…
Even with the average age of first marriage increasing, there is no evidence to support the idea that poor people are abandoning marriage. In Unmarried with Children, the authors follow the story of a teenage girl who gave birth to her first son at the age of 15. Jen’s story shines a spotlight on what family and marriage mean among lower class communities, and how, if anything, they glorify the idea of marriage rather than rejecting it. The article discusses how pregnancy is often a manipulative tactic for men to persuade their younger girlfriends to stay with them even while, in many cases, they are in prison. Young women regularly end up marrying the same man who impregnated them out of wedlock. In fact, according to the Unmarried with Children, “more than seven in ten women who had a child outside of marriage will eventually wed someone”…
There are many homes throughout the United States and other parts of the world where young children are taken in by adoptive parents to provide love, care and security and to meet many of the other endless needs of those less fortunate beings. Though the situation that may have lead to the children being adopted is deemed an unfortunate one, many of the children who have been successfully drafted and graduated from the adoption process would count their blessings every day because of the peace and joy that their new family life offer.…
The ethnocentric point of view of Noni’s story is horrendous. In our culture, it is considered illegal to have child brides. It is viewed as statutory rape, and child negligence. It is absurd to believe parents would basically sell their under aged children so they could find the means to feed themselves. Many child bride stories, have come to light where the victims have expressed how badly they were treated and identified with feeling like property or garbage. This can be harsh to read, but if the family doesn’t have the means to provide food and shelter to the child then why have children to begin with. Unfortunately, their government has failed them if their only option to support themselves is to sell their underage children as brides.…
In many areas around the world such as the United States, Asia, and India, children of poor economic status suffer the painful conditions of sexual trafficking. Millions of children in a waking second suffer from the harms of sexual exploitation and face the outcomes of living life in bondage. Children, being the easier targets of the sex trade market, have suffered great issues such as sexually transmitted diseases, rape, abuse, pregnancy, drug abuse, and abduction from their families and homes. The international growth of prostituting children has robbed them of their innocence and exposes children to live criminal lives (Flowers 148). In the case of child exploitation, many organizations have united to establish and create rights for children who suffer in slavery. Organizations such as the United Nations have come together to create strategies and ways, such as the Convention on the Rights of the Child, to help children in bondage receive freedom. Organizations such as the UN have established laws that have allowed children to come out of bondage an begin new lives. Rights for children’s education after slavery have been created to give life back to children who been taken from their home communities and have been raised in the sex market since birth.…
First of all, girls younger than 14 are getting married to men around 58 years old. In America that would be considered rape, child abuse, child seduction and many other things. The girls are barley educated and they are supposed to have sexual intercourse with a man and she barely know her abc’s. These young women get to have no life and their destiny is to be a burden to their families. Some people may say that women are just to please women and a means to an end, but it modern day women and men have equal rights.-…
Child marriages are often arranged marriages that has the manifest function like other marriage but the latent function is to built alliances between two families in exchange not just their children but mostly for wealth and favors. Love and personal compatibilities is not the foundation of these marriages as children is still young to understand it. For example, in India, child marriage is illegal but still in has been practice in remote rural areas where the tradition is strong and enforcement is hard to maintain.…