“Monogamy isn’t realistic” (Trainwreck) is a recurring theme in Aziz Ansari’s Modern Romance. Ansari’s argument is that with the ever growing influence of technology in modern relationships/dating it is ridiculous to expect you and/or your partner to remain monogamous. Here enters the idea of monogamish relationships; “the couple is deeply committed to each other, but there is room for outside sexual activity” (Ansari 228). Relationships based on trust that leave room for the natural need for sexual variety allow individuals to meet both their emotional and physical needs without fear of backlash from their partner.
Polyamory is natural; according to psychologist and TED-talk presenter Christopher Ryan, humans are not wired to be monogamous. Ryan believes that “before the dawn of agriculture, humans were quite promiscuous.” Humans, according to Ryan, are just like all other primates, such as baboons and gorillas, in that we have evolved to mate with multiple partners in order to bond and procreate effectively and efficiently. Thus, it is only natural that people be involved in open relationships to fulfill their evolutionary need for sexual diversity.
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In time, with both the influence of technology and a more culturally-accepting generation, this number will only begin to climb. Polyamory is a natural and healthy part of committed relationships. Monogamish relationships are all about finding the best situation for both you and your partner to have your emotional and physical needs fulfilled , and the definition of monogamish may vary from couple to couple. The rapper Pitbull summed it up best “People are stuck on what’s normal, what’s right, what’s wrong. Maybe what’s right to you is wrong to me...What count’s at the end of the day is everybody being happy”